How to Spot a Cheater in the Digital Age

Ahhh… Infidelity. It’s not a four letter word and it’s a whole five syllables long, but even the not-so-bright are capable of it. Equally ironic is the fact that the smartest among us sometimes fail to notice when we are being played.

Social media and technology have come in and shaken up the rules of relationships over the past decade or so, which has left many of us floundering. Is it okay for him to follow his ex on Snapchat? If she sends a guy a provocative picture of herself via WhatsApp, is she cheating? What if he won’t update his Facebook relationship status to make it clear you are an item?

My not-so-distant relationship history gave me some valuable insight into cheating in the digital age, and I thought I’d share it with you. Continue reading “How to Spot a Cheater in the Digital Age”

Travel Glam Guide: How to pack light and still look good!

Some of you may know that for me, one of last months highlights was attending a beautiful wedding in Florence, Italy. I’d never been to Italy before, but I’d always dreamed of going. Hubby and I booked a lovely little studio on AirBnB as well as flights on a low-cost airline.

I’ve traveled a lot, but usually I’ve gone very long distances and have therefore avoided the complications of the budget airline ‘carry-on only’ rule. But you know me, I was more than willing to meet the challenge this time!

I had a few priorities for this trip, I wanted to be able to pack light while taking items that weren’t only practical, but also versatile and flattering. If you’ve ever had similar priorities, maybe this post will help you! Continue reading “Travel Glam Guide: How to pack light and still look good!”

If I Could Go Back In Time: Things I would say to myself…

I turned thirty in June. I tried not to… I wasn’t ready for it. Like death, I’ve known for many years that it would happen, had things I wanted to achieve before it did, but it seemed to sneak up on me and when it did I just wanted to turn back the clock. Morbid? Maybe, but that was my mood.

I’ve dealt with it now… mostly. I’ve done a lot of reflection on my current situation, my future and all the lessons I’ve learned in 30 years on Earth. Still, from the height of three decades, I look back and wish I could tell my past self certain things. They are all equally true, though a few of them might seem contradictory; Continue reading “If I Could Go Back In Time: Things I would say to myself…”

Pimping my Planner on a Budget!

Many of you may know that I have recently moved. In my new country of residence, I have a few friends, some family, but I have lost most of my social and professional network. As a freelancer, this has had a major impact on my income… but then again, who better to face this challenge than the (self-declared) Queen of Frugal Living?

I have found a great deal of joy in planning my days, the routine and the structure of it are crucial to me as I rebuild my career. Continue reading “Pimping my Planner on a Budget!”

Your ‘Nice-Guy’ Card Just Got REVOKED!

You bought her a drink. Watched her bag for her when she went to the ladies’ room. You made polite conversation, scored a few genuine laughs from her and even expressed sincere interest in her hobbies and passions. So why is she casting amorous glances at the guy with the neck tattoo who barely remembers her name? Continue reading “Your ‘Nice-Guy’ Card Just Got REVOKED!”

“Take her to the Pool on the First Date” – Makeup tips to SLAY at the beach this summer…

The weather is fine; you can wear what you want. Your sandals are out and your pedicure is fresh. You’ve shaved all those places the light never hit in winter. Your bikini body is… as good as it’s gonna get. You’re off to the beach! Your skin already has that beachy, flawless, sunkissed goddess glow right? Uhhmmmm…. Maybe not so much.

Thing is, when you look in the mirror, what you see looks nothing like the fantastical creatures crawling out of every magazine, every TV advert and every Instagram post this summer. So what do you do? After all, you can’t wear makeup to the beach, right? Continue reading ““Take her to the Pool on the First Date” – Makeup tips to SLAY at the beach this summer…”

How I Airbrush My Life: on Social Media (and in person)

The digital universe needs an injection of realness. I’ve got the needle. One of the many places where the first half of this year took me was one of deep sadness and loneliness (more on that in another post) and I’m not sad to have closed that chapter. Still, if you’d been following me on social media you would have had no idea. My Instagram in particular would have told you I was living a life of sun, sea and sexy bikinis. My Facebook account has been ripe with my snarky wit and commentary about everything other than my own personal life… as usual.

Only on one day – or to be more precise, on the night of April 11th – did my facade crumble. Continue reading “How I Airbrush My Life: on Social Media (and in person)”

What I’ve had up my sleeve!

Hello Darlings!

If you’ve done a good job of cyber stalking me thus far, you already know about this. If you haven’t been cyber stalking me… you should be ashamed of yourself!

I wanted to come to this platform to share a very special post… Continue reading “What I’ve had up my sleeve!”

April Showers

April is over, and not a day to soon. May has already brought me amazing things!

In honour of the flowers of May, I’m sharing a poem I wrote over a month ago. It was written in sadness. It was written about happiness. It was written in anticipation of this day.

I hope it speaks to you. Continue reading “April Showers”

Blogger’s Block: An imaginary conversation with my readers…

Avid Reader: Whoaaa now. You’re writing another post Joleen? But where have you been all this time?

Joleen: I’ve been around… busy with multiple projects, some of which you’ll hear about really soon!

Avid Reader: So you just got busy and forgot us? You had no time for us anymore? Not impressed Jo… Continue reading “Blogger’s Block: An imaginary conversation with my readers…”